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On Quitting

2/17/2017

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Many years ago in Minneapolis, I went on a date to The Museum of Questionable Medical Devices. (I know. It’s gone now, but that it existed at all is one of the many things I love about this city.) The museum housed, among other gems, a phrenology machine, an electric permanent wave contraption, and an x-ray machine for shoe stores, so a salesman could show you how roomy your bones looked inside your brand new loafers.

There was also a working Strength Test Machine: a red box with two metal bars sticking up. After you deposited two dimes and wrapped one fist around each bar, an increasing electric current would begin to course up your arms. The machine timed how long you could endure, up to a minute.

My date went first. He held on for nearly the whole time, shaking and purple-faced by the end. It seemed like some kind of record.

Then I stepped up, popped my dimes in and held on. At the first tickle of electric buzz, I let go. Fuck that, I said. It was going to be a minute of senseless pain I didn't care about and could avoid. Why?

Quitting in general has been on my mind. When is giving up abandonment and when is it liberation? Quitting broken systems and structures heals.

I've quit some things too soon and some too late. I don't doubt--or I should say I no longer doubt--my own tenacity or dedication to what matters, but what about my tenacity or dedication to what doesn't? Why haven't I, historically, released the hurtful, the broken, the restricting, the outgrown? When do I still cling? 

​I wish in the years that followed I had consistently held onto the clarity I experienced at the Strength Test Machine. I'd have had more of myself left for what's worth holding tight to and sometimes suffering through. Over the last few years, however, letting go has become a favorite activity, and it is largely what my collection of poems quitter is about.
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Days before the book was officially released, I came across this essay about quitting and raising kids to be quitters by Nora McInerny, and her writing here makes me feel like a human being. If you haven’t read it yet, you might like it a lot.

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Shirley Smith Franklin link
8/17/2017 11:41:22 am

Not only do I remember the fascination of watching my green bones in the shoe-size-xray machine (and wonder now about its association with arthritic feet!), but I really get the 'druthers-type reflection of this and "Nocturne for a Botched Youth." 'May be easy enough to forgive (oneself or others), but nigh impossible to forget...the mixed memories...the hesitance to choose...

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Henry Andrews link
12/30/2020 06:49:18 am

Goodd reading your post

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Mariam W link
7/13/2024 04:46:13 pm

Nice poost thanks for sharing

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